Patrick J. Adams Admits He Made A Mistake Over Calling Out Body-Shamer: ‘I’m Sorry, But I’m No Bully’

Patrick J. Adams is human, everyone!

After a body-shamer called the “Suits” star and his wife Troian Bellisario out at the airport for looking less-than-stellar following Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s royal wedding on Sunday, Patrick  clapped back by calling out the woman on his own social media accounts. Just a short time later, he says he realized he should not have publicly called her out on his social media account and issued a mea culpa on Instagram. 

“Yesterday I posted a photo of a woman who did some casual body shaming of my wife and I in the airport. My intention was solely to put a face to the people who think that sort of glancing commentary is necessary, helpful or funny. Some of the comments on the post instead said I was being a bully and should have taken the “high road” (some also doubled down on the body shaming. Thumbs up guys!) I thought it over and agreed and took it down, not because I felt the woman was right or fair or undeserving of being called out but because any sense of being a bully or lashing out felt wrong,” Patrick wrote in part on Instagram. 

“I’m no bully. What that woman said to us was offensive and unnecessary but I should have told her she was rude and out of line and left it at that. I’m sorry I didn’t. I was too shocked and annoyed and Canadian – so I avoided the confrontation. Again, I’m sorry,” he shared. 

But can we blame him for protecting his wife and himself from someone who spoke ill about them? Celebrities are humans — like all of us — and on a certain level it’s gotta sting every time someone makes a harsh comment. And since when do we all have to pretend that because they happen to be on TV shows they’re supposed to become immune to rude comments? 

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Yesterday I posted a photo of a woman who did some casual body shaming of my wife and I in the airport. My intention was solely to put a face to the people who think that sort of glancing commentary is necessary, helpful or funny. Some of the comments on the post instead said I was being a bully and should have taken the “high road” (some also doubled down on the body shaming. Thumbs up guys!) I thought it over and agreed and took it down, not because I felt the woman was right or fair or undeserving of being called out but because any sense of being a bully or lashing out felt wrong. Now a number of familiar outlets with a lot of extra time on their hands are asking for comment and getting ready to publish the post in their hard hitting newspapers, magazines and blogs. So I’ll comment here. I’m no bully. What that woman said to us was offensive and unnecessary but I should have told her she was rude and out of line and left it at that. I’m sorry I didn’t. I was too shocked and annoyed and Canadian – so I avoided the confrontation. Again, I’m sorry. Now if you see the original post on any media outlet just know that they are choosing to take a relatively small indiscretion and make it worse. Not for me. Because I promise you once I hit post on this message it will be out of my mind forever. But it will make whatever bullying or embarrassment I might have caused for that woman far worse for a far wider audience. Now -this has obviously taken up far too much of our time and of the precious internet space that we need so much. Sorry about that. But let’s just finish with a quick summary. 1. Don’t talk shit about the way people look. You have no idea what’s going on with them and your commentary will always make their day worse not better. 2. If someone does. Don’t use the internet to settle scores. Tell them right to their face and in public that they’re part of the problem and not the solution. 3. Believe pretty much nothing you read in magazines. Good or bad. The machinery runs on misfortune and oversimplification. 4. Be cool to yourself and others at every opportunity. Life is too short for all of this. Thx for reading. Now back to our lives…

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Honestly, this outlet isn’t surprised he clapped back — and we don’t blame him either. Patrick had some solid points about the fact that commenters on social media have no idea what people — famous or not — may be going through in their personal lives. 

“Let’s just finish with a quick summary. 1. Don’t talk shit about the way people look. You have no idea what’s going on with them and your commentary will always make their day worse not better. 2. If someone does. Don’t use the internet to settle scores. Tell them right to their face and in public that they’re part of the problem and not the solution,” Patrick concluded his post. 

Good for you, Patrick. Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself!